In the good old days when I had a career, it mattered what people thought of me. Making a good impression was essential to getting more interesting (rewarding) work. Two of my biggest weaknesses were that I had a habit of not finishing my sentences and forgetting words and the second “weakness” was that I was (am) fat. So naturally, often people thought I was fat and dumb. Being fat and being dumb are seen as significant
moral character flaws. One of these flaws on its own is not an insurmountable problem, but combined, the difficulty level for climbing the career ladder increases.
Anyway, they were right about the fat part, although probably not for the reasons they imagined, but they were wrong about me being stupid.
I have Attention Deficit Disorder. Apparently that puts me on the spectrum of whatever. Whatever. I think differently and that’s a good thing (thing being one of the most favourite words of people with ADD). It takes time to organise my thoughts (because I have so many) and I tend to move on to my next idea before finishing my. Now where was I?
If you are a neuro normal person, be patient with the ADD person and their questions. They (the royal “They”) will have many. The good thing about giving a complex job to a person with ADD is that they’ve probably thought about all the potential problems and solutions even before the job officially lands on their desk. Just don’t ask them to explain it when they are eating chocolate or doing something else. Also, the plan will probably change. If they haven’t worked out the problem, then the job must be boring. If you give an ADD person a boring job, they can either do it poorly or they can eventually turn it into a work of art with a solution that you never knew you wanted. I know from experience.
I am not sure whether I am describing a typical ADD person or I am merely describing myself with all my wonderful attributes. ADD people are all different and experience can hone strengths and temper weaknesses. We have different interests and different compensation mechanisms. Some are smarter than others, some are kinder, some act before they think, some are dishonest and some aren’t. I like to start new projects (or think about starting new projects) and I am content with seeing them through to their conclusion, fixing mistakes and adapting quickly. Although I am an introvert, I also like to make connections and work with others because I know that we are stronger if we can share ideas and we can do the boring stuff together. Anyway, I don’t have a career anymore, but boy, do I have opinions!
Now this business of not being able to string a coherent sentence together, does it remind you of anyone? No, don’t tell me. Here’s my point and it is an important one. They’re not dumb.