This is my response to the Ragtag Daily Prompt — Groove.
As some of you may know, I am a delicate, sensitive flower. I blame it on the boogie. So I want to raise an issue that is dear to my heart, even though this may be an issue mostly in my own head. But it feels real enough. First some background…
When I was growing up in Australia in the ’70s and ’80s, Countdown was the show we all watched on the tele. It was a music show that brought in artists from all over the world to lip sync their music in front of a live crowd. It gave many artists their big break. Countdown was huge and it got pretty wild. There were sequins galore. And because it was the ’70 and ’80s, there was a lot of disco music. I adored it. It was how I learnt to dance. I seemed to have the knack for it.
Have you ever noticed how many people are embarrassed about dancing, especially in public? Maybe there is a general background level of embarrassment about dancing? I dunno. Here’s the thing – I was a fat kid in the days before obesity rates skyrocketed in Australia (excessive insulin and too much chocolate does that to you). The fact that I was a fat dancer only seemed to escalate the embarrassment factor. Dancing with all the twirls and flourishes that accompanies disco dancing, was not for fat kids. Dancing was for firm, young bodies. The tele told me so. If I had thought that dancing as a profession was open to fat people, I might have tried to pursue it as a career. Instead, I studied economics and ate chocolate.
I still love my dancing. I pursue it furtively and not so furtively in the privacy of my own home. While times have changed, I have an inkling that dancing is still not really for fat people, and it is certainly not for fat, old people. Sometimes, on a popular social media site, people share videos of fat dancers (usually wearing tiny, rhinestone undies) or old people (like really old) rocking it. People do seem to have a genuine affection for fat and/or old dancers who do not see their physical attributes as a barrier to dancing and having fun. How out there, brave cute (my interpretation)! I’m always just a little uncomfortable with such expressions of support, and what they perhaps imply, eg. dancing is an activity for firm, young bodies, and if you are fat and/or old and you are dancing, then you are brave because you are doing something that is kind of shameful. I also note that young men who like to dance also encounter similar stigma (exceptions are made for young gay men though). You get my drift. Am I being too sensitive about this, do you think? Is it any wonder that dance clubs are synonymous with drugs and alcohol?
Frankly, I’m a bit over it. So I’m letting go of that part of the embarrassment factor that is purely in my head. I’m done with it. I’m coming out as a dancer (and an old, fat person) and I’m proud.
I’ve told my kids that I want a 70s/80s dance party for my wake. I’ve trained them up. They can shake their groove thing. I’m really annoyed that I’ll miss the party, so maybe I shouldn’t wait that long to dance with somebody who loves me.
If you encounter any subtle dance-related shaming in future, I invite you to call it out for what it is. Groove is in the heart, not the waistline or dermis. Yep, that’s my new motto (I have so many). Dance with me and make the world a better place.
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Yours in Boogie Wonderland.
Tracy
On the lookout. will call out, if encountered!
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Thank you, Frank. 🙂
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Bravo, Tracy! Get down with you bad self, girl!! Rock on. As shall I.
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Thank you, Lois. I definitely will be. I’m thrilled that you will be grooving too. As you should. I’m sure we could show the young things a few cool dance moves. 🙂
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Most definitely!!!
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Dancing is for everyone. So much emotional release through dancing. I always feel re-energized after a night of dancing (doesn’t happen often enough anymore)!
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I agree. My dancing is confined to the day. At least, I’m awake then. 🙂
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The traditional club hours are a challenge for this oldster. Anything that starts after 9 pm is off my list.
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Heehee.
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Good post, Tracy–Dancing is for everyone! Even as the cultural bits on size interfere.
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Thank you, Steph. Unfortunately. Now I don’t really give a damn. But I do wish it was different for other budding dancers.
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I think it’s changing some. Not at the highest levels perhaps, but on the community level, I see considerably more diversity of body type and size
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That is great.
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Theoretically, I agree Dancing should be for everyone. Just not me: two left feet doesn’t begin to cover it. I’ll just sit and watch, thanks.
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You can do that, Margaret. But if you actually wanted to dance, I hope you wouldn’t feel censured because of your two left feet. 🙂
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Lovely post, I can see those disco moves like they were yesterday, hehe. In Mexico everybody used to dance, no shame, regardless of age, shape or skill level. I don’t know if they still do, but parties without dancing were not really parties.
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Thank you, Irene. I do love how dance is part of so many cultures. Judging from Judy Dykstra-Brown’s blog, the Mexicans still know how to party. Dancing and lots of noise seems to be a feature of their love of life. 🙂
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Love, love, love this post, Tracy!!! 😄 Dancing is so incredibly good for the soul and the body and I often do it whilst cooking – to the ever delight of my neighbour. 😉 And i don’t care if someone might find it weird or unattractive – I’m doing it for me and not for them. If they don’t like what they see they can look the other way (that’s one of my mottos 😉). So keep dancing! And wearing that beautiful purple blouse, I just love it! 😄💜
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Thank you, Sarah. And that’s a great motto. I think I shall add it to my list of favourite mottos. Rock on, lovely.
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You´re very welcome, Tracy and I´m so glad you also like this motto! Keep dancing, dear friend! 🙂
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A lovely post Tracy, you are rocking those moves – keep on dancing! :o) xxx
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Thank you, Xenia 🙂
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I feel what you are saying! I love to dance, but was ALWAYS too shy to do so. I have only embraced it in the last ten years or so, and sadly only after a glass or two of wine. You shake your groove thing!
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Thank you, Beth. Hope you continue to rock on as well. Regards. Tracy.
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I’m dancing, and smiling… cute post!
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Thank you. 🙂
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why wait? A wake like that is too good to miss. You should be there. ❤
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My thoughts exactly. I will have to plan something. Or maybe the lads could have a practice and plan a dry run for me. Thanks for chirping in, Martha. 🙂
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Love the music. But you knew I would. 🙂
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I was that kid who wouldn’t dance at the school disco – tall and rather clumsy and very socially anxious. Having a child of my own has freed me to dance! There’s not much in this world better than using your whole body to have fun, I just wish I’d found out earlier 🙂
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Better late than never, Meg. 🙂 Dance on.
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Plus, life is too short. Live how you want your children to remember you.
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Groovin’ as us ol’ ladies from the hippie generation know always includes dancing and being a free spirit.
Good for you too.
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Thank you, Candace. I’m a work-in-progress to being a free spirit. 🙂
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Go with what makes the most happiness for you and does no harm.
Dance, because you want to dance. Sing for the joy of it. Very human activities are based on action and social participation.
I am great at escalators but not a twit critic of those less elegant pretenders.
Cheers!
P.S.
See also: “Ecstatic Dance”
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Thanks for the encouragement, Lemuel. I’ve not heard of Ecstatic Dance. Sounds fun and non-judgmental. We have No Lights No Lycra here. You dance in the dark. But it is a bit too loud for me. My hearing is not that good as it is. 🙂
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Hi ROAUM,
Mostly with the events for which I’m familiar have groovy light music. Non-rave typically.
Heh, in the dark might give a person a wrenched ankle.
Best wishes. Keep dancing
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Fabulous post, I love to dance, and so does my golden retriever, although sometimes my husband says “help mummy, she is having another fit”…so funny….HA!
I was nominated to do the 3 quotes over 3 days…today I will forgo my planned post in honour of your post and I will submit this quote “Dance as if there’s nobody watching” and for the next two, they will have a dance theme. Stay tuned and keep rockin’
Hugs.
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That’s so funny. 🙂 I confess to dancing with my dog too. That is a great quote. I can feel another dance coming on. 🙂 Regards. Tracy.
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If you love to dance, then dance! And don’t let anyone stifle that impulse!
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Thanks Ann. I won’t be stifling here. Hope you are well. Regards. Tracy.
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Love it! I agree with you on the choice of music for a wake. Maybe some Motown too 😎
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Yes, Motown too. Also a little Minnie the Moocher. The list goes on. 🙂
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Lol! You’re fun!
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🙂
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